Suitable Helper

- This is the first time in Genesis that God gave a negative remark ("It is not good for the man to be alone"). God saw and knew the man's need. He made Eve to become Adam's suitable companion and helper. Suitable = truly fitting, fully adequate, just right. God gave marriage as a gift to Adam and Eve. They were created perfect for each other. Companionship replaces isolation. However, for companionship to be satisfying and God-glorifying, there must be oneness in the marriage (Genesis 2:24). Self-centeredness destroys oneness and companionship. I believe that self-centeredness is the root cause of most divorces.
- "The word for helper in Hebrew does not mean 'servant' or 'slave.' The word is most commonly used in the Bible in reference to God as our helper, often in a military sense. A helper in this sense would be someone--superior or equal-- who comes alongside to support another in a situation that can't be handled alone. According to this passage, man needed help--a partner every bit his equal whose strengths would compensate for his weaknesses." (commentary from the book, "Building a Marriage That Really Works") Jesus used the same word (the Greek equivalent) in John to describe the Holy Spirit. "But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My Name, will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you." (John 14:26) Helper is one who helps and has the ability to help. Do not think lowly of this significant role. It's not a second-class status. In God's eyes, a helper is very important, valuable, and necessary. It doesn't mean superiority or inferiority.
- Prayer: Thank You, Father, for being my constant Help! Please help me to be the best helper for my husband. Please bless our marriage to always be Christ-centered and be pleasing & honoring to You. In Jesus' Name I pray. Amen.

"There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage." (Martin Luther)