Avoid Foolish and Stupid Arguments

We, God's children, are to avoid wasting our time and energy on foolish and stupid/ignorant arguments because they lead to quarrels. Nothing of value comes out of it. "Foolish and stupid" imply the character of being unable to use logic, discretion, or good sense. These types of arguments only lead to strife/contention. They are fruitless and unproductive. "And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful." (2 Timothy 2:24) 

Paul is not saying that Christians should never argue. There are definitely some important theological and doctrinal issues that are worth defending. Here he is referring to pointless, meaningless issues that have nothing to do with salvation or godly living. If the issues are not essential doctrines to the Christian faith or are matters on which the Bible is silent, it's best for us to agree to disagree agreeably.

We can discuss our differences of opinions but we must not let our discussions turn into heated, senseless arguments because they only cause quarreling and division. We must examine our motives when we argue/discuss. Are you concerned about godliness and God's truths or about proving that you're right? Some people love to argue just to prove their point and to win. It's because of pride and arrogance. Have you ever engaged in a conversation (online or in person) where someone never wants an answer or truth, but he/she just wants to argue? This kind of person enjoys getting others riled up. Don't fall into the trap. Stay calm and keep your cool. Remember that we cannot argue a person into the kingdom of God or into godly living. Only the Holy Spirit can change heart and save soul.

"Avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless. Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned." (Titus 3:9-11)

"The goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith. For some men, straying from these things, have turned aside to fruitless discussion, wanting to be teachers of the Law, even though they do not understand either what they are saying or the matters about which they make confident assertions." (1 Timothy 1:5-7)

"Here then is the test. If at the end of our talk, we are closer to one another and God, then all is well; but if we have erected barriers between one another and have left God more distant, then all is not well. The aim of all Christian discussion and of all Christian action is to bring a man nearer to his fellows and to God." (William Barclay)

Prayer: Heavenly Father, please forgive me for the times I've got myself into fruitless arguments and lost my temper. Please take away my pride and help me be humble and teachable. Please give me wisdom and discernment to be able to distinguish between the worthwhile and the worthless discussions. In Jesus' Name, I pray. Amen.